Hmmm, this seems like a tricky situation…
I can kind of understand the point of view of both people in this story, but it’s up to YOU to decide if you think this woman was being an a**hole for sending her BF a pic of herself in the hospital.
Read on to get all the details.
“I (20F) was recently admitted into a hospital for a night due to a serious but not life-threatening illness.
I was completely out of it for several days with horrible pain before my roommate convinced me to get medical help. She took off work to stay with me in the hospital and I cannot express how much her support has helped as my own family lives too far away.
Now I’ve been dating Sam (19M) for about nine months. He knew I was sick and so I texted him when I was first going into the hospital to update him. Since he was working he didn’t read the message until much later.
I sent him around 6 texts updating him with what the nurses were saying and including a photo of me on IV giving a thumbs up. It was my first time ever in the hospital and I just wanted to keep the s**tty situation as light-hearted as possible.
He responded a few hours later with a thumbs up and that was all. I asked if everything was all right and he said “yeah just you being in the hospital is giving me a lot of anxiety, i’d rather not see you looking like that.” I told him that was okay and didn’t message him for the rest of the night, not thinking much of it.
The next afternoon his mom called me asking if I was okay. She had the impression that I sent him the hospital photo after he told me not to share any information and was disrespecting his request.
She reminded me that his grandfather only d**d a year earlier where Sam had to spend a lot of time in and out of the hospital so the updates were making him grieve all over again. I apologized to her and sent him a text saying that I didn’t mean to hurt his feelings. He left me on read.
My roommate thinks I didn’t do anything wrong at all and he’s being too sensitive/immature for involving his mom. Personally I think this is a bit unfair as he was really close with his grandfather and struggles with anxiety. I feel really really guilty as I know how mental health can be and never want him to suffer.
Here’s what Reddit users had to say about this.
This reader said she needs to drop this guy immediately.
And another person said this guy is trying to dump her without actually doing the dumping.
And this individual said she’s NTA and this is not the kind of relationship she should be seeking.
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