There’s no doubt about it, online dating is tough.
And when people who you’re supposed to meet up with for a first date act like elitist jerks, well, things can be even tougher.
And a woman shared an interaction she had on Hinge that made her question the whole online dating process…and all because she suggested meeting up at Starbucks for their first date.
And you better believe that folks responded to her story on Twitter.
One person said that her suggestion makes her seem like she comes from a “low quality position.”
Suggesting a first date at a place like Starbucks or McDonald’s just paints you in a certain fast food, low quality position. They will work for some, not for many others who especially on a first date would aim a little higher
— DJ (@thebalmainboy) February 14, 2022
And this person said her Starbucks suggestion is the reason this guy denied her.
Starbucks??? That’s so unoriginal no wonder you got denied
— ernesto torres (@eetorres22) February 14, 2022
But other Twitter users had different perspectives…
This person said that they meet people for first dates like this instead of going out to a formal dinner.
He clearly does not know first meetups are generally to sus the person out… You think imma let you take me out to an actual dinner where I have to decide if I should let you pay when I know damn well I’m not gonna see you again?
— sea era (@sierraskyehigh) February 14, 2022
And another woman said they always pick a semi-lame place for a first date because they don’t want people to know their favorite spots…not a bad idea, right?
Why would I take some rando from hinge to my favorite cafe?? I always pick a semi lame place for a first date. If it sucks I don’t want them knowing where I go regularly.
— Bethany Rose 🌹🐦 (@ladymacbethany) February 14, 2022
This person made a good point: meeting like this is to figure out if you vibe with someone, so why waste a bunch of money if you might end up not liking the person?
Wow to all the guys on here saying going to Starbucks is low class…uhm no. It’s no pressure. Instead of me making you waste $80-120 at a restaurant to figure out we do not vibe, I’m asking for a chill meet.
Imagine being so insecure.
— » ᴊ ᴇ ɴ ɴ ᴀ « (@jnvgerow) February 14, 2022
And finally, this reader made a very good point: this is a safety issue for women.
You better believe it!
I think the missing perspective here is that for men a blind internet date is about ‘the finer things’ whereas for women it’s finding a well lit public space to reduce the chance of violent death. Understanding that is the first step towards dating success!
— James Davison (@jsdaviso) February 14, 2022
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