Anyone who has passed a certain age without having children (or getting married) has gotten the inevitable questions from family and friends.
You know the ones – they’re absolutely no one’s business, but they think somehow that they’re allowed to ask anyway?
This woman and her husband have been trying to have a baby for several years to no avail, and at some point, she decided to figure out how to get people to stop asking about when it’s going to happen.
My husband and I have been married for 6 years. Still don’t have kids (we want them but it still not happening).
Friends and family are causing us constant stress about having a baby soon but it’s obviously something we can’t control.
We only wished that they’d stop but to no avail.
She got a “pregnancy jar” and demanded people pay a dollar every time they asked, which nipped the probably in about 4 months.
So what I did was come up with idea (stupid I know) and that is have an empty jar and call it “Pregnancy Jar”. I carry it with me in my bag whenever I’m with friends and family and everytime someone asks about when my husband and I are gonna have a baby, I pull my Jar out and ask them to drop a dollar in there for asking.
I’d get puzzled looks but they reach out for their pockets/wallets/purses and pull out a dollar and out it inside the jar. It actually worked because most of thrm stopped asking after 4 months.
Things came to a head when her brother returned from a long trip away, asked the question, and had to pay up.
Last week we had dinner at my parents house, My brother came back from his business trip that lasted a month and while we were eating he asked when me and my husband were going to have a kid.
My husband paused, I got up from the chair and made my way to where my brother was sitting with my jar in my hand and asked him to drop a dollar for the question he asked, he stared at me then laughed nervously asking if I was being serious. Everyone was looking at us.
He said no, he didn’t have to pay me but I told him he didn’t have to ask either so here we are!. I could tell he felt embarrassed he immediately reached out to his pocket, pulled out his wallet and put a dollar in my jar. I made my way back to my seat and sat down and resumed eating like nothing happened.
Her mother said she needed to stop being “childish” because OP was “running out of time” and people were just concerned.
It got awkward afterward. Mom pulled me into the kitchen later to tell me that I embarrassed my brother infront of his wife and family and said I should quit acting childish by running around with a jar demanding others to put money in it, I told her they should quit asking then.
She went on about how they’re just worried for us since we are in mid 30s and don’t have much time left if we want at least one healthy baby. I got upset and she started arguing.
My husband and I left and we haven’t seen them in days, except I got a call from my sister basically siding with mom and the others saying I’m being childish.
So AITA for this?
OP doesn’t think she did anything wrong, but she’s checking in with Reddit after causing an unintentional stir.
Reddit actually thinks it’s quite creative and wishes they would have thought of it themselves.
This person suggested a clever little addition.
And honestly, people should really know better by now, don’t you think?
Everyone really wants to be this woman’s friend, and I don’t blame them.
There’s almost never an answer to this you’d want to hear.
Seriously, people, stop asking these invasive questions. Just stop.
Do you think this was clever or embarrassing? Tell us which and why in the comments!