If you’re a regular reader of the subreddit Am I the A$$hole, you know there are a disturbing amount of people who have had their romantic partner take serious issue with their pets.
You also know that the good people of Reddit almost always side with the pet, so you can probably guess how this one is going to go.
OP and her husband have been married for two years and have had a cat for the majority of the time.
Out of nowhere her husband began to complain about the cat and eventually confessed that he “hates cats” but didn’t want to upset her.
My husband and I have been together for 2 years. We had a beautiful cat named Molly whom he did not have any issues with until recently.
Last week he kept complaining about how the cat was “annoying him” and how she her meowing was distracting him from working. I replied to his complaints asking why he was just bringing it up now when we’ve had the cat for a year now.
He went off. He started yelling about how he ‘put up’ with the cat because he loved me, and that he couldn’t bear to break it to me that he hated cats.
It bothered OP that he hadn’t been honest with her, but they came to an agreement that she would re-home the cat with a family member just down the street. She trusted the person to take good care of the cat and OP would still be able to visit, as well.
I felt betrayed and angry since he wasn’t honest with me from the start.
The night ended with him apologising and telling me that he really didn’t want the cat, and so, I agreed to give Molly to my cousins, as I knew they would take great care of her.
They live a few minutes away, so it would give me a good opportunity to visit her frequently. He seemed on board, and I trusted him.
The next day OP found the cat had been “sold” to someone without her husband doing any vetting or getting any forms filled out.
She kicked him out but of course he thinks all of this mess “over a cat” is ridiculous.
The next morning Molly was gone. I originally thought she had escaped or ran away until my husband told me that he sold her. I was distraught. He sold her to a random person on Gumtree, without doing proper background checks and forms.
I was furious and kicked him out. He’s now texting me, calling me stupid for kicking him out and that he didn’t deserve any of this. AITA?
What does Reddit think? I can’t wait to find out!
The top comment might seem a bit dramatic, but suggests that if he’s willing to hurt her like this, there’s really no telling what else he might do.
This commenter, along with others, hopes OP will take swift and decisive action.
And they think divorce is not out of the question here.
While others questioned her willingness to give the cat away in the first place.
This person thought OP was far nicer than they would have been in the same situation.
The update here is a wild ride, but OP did find her cat (and filed for divorce), not necessarily in that order.
UPDATE (1): I think Molly has been found!!!! I was contacting shelters near me and asking friends to be on the lookout. One of my mutual friends works at an animal shelter and confirmed receiving a multi-coloured Scottish Fold yesterday. I think we’ve done it. Fingers crossed! I’m going tomorrow. Thank you to EVERYONE for their kind words and support. As for my ex-husband, I’ve filed for a divorce. I can’t speak of it freely on the internet, for obvious reasons, but he’s never coming back into my life. Thank you again. Words cannot express how grateful I am.
UPDATE (2): I have been reunited with Molly! I guess the whole ‘I sold her’ story was a lie, since I found her at a shelter. She is healthy, happy and cannot thank you guys enough for the support and kindness. No updates on the husband, the lawyers are figuring things out right now. Please give all of your pets a hug from Molly and I. Thank you.
Y’all, there is a lesson to be learned from these types of Reddit posts, and I think it’s that you definitely don’t mess with people’s pets.
Would you have taken such drastic steps here? Tell us in the comments why or why not!